If possible, have someone read the words to you. Hearing an issue is much more reactivating than reading one. Listen to each word as though it accurately describes you. Notice which words are the most painful.

Also, pay particular attention to any characteristics that you deny having. You wouldn't need to deny it unless you were avoiding it.

While you are going over the list, remember that you are not looking for the truth. You are looking for the hurt. In other words, don’t look to see if you are this way. You're not. Notice if it would be painful if you were.

The more painful the words, or the more you want to deny them, the closer you are to the hurt. For most people, the bottom line hurt is worthless.

Look over the following list of common core issues and find the words that hurt the most.